Stories

The stories on these pages are from people affected by dementia.

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My Greatest Sadness.

I have found myself, at the age of 62
In a place that I never thought I’d be
I have a husband, children, and grandchildren. Let me tell you a little about me……

My mind is in a fog, my days seem empty
No longer can I work – the future seems bleak My memory is going, and anxiety now haunts me Every day it’s just normality that I seek

First signs

My name is Wendy and I am 54 years old. Prior to my diagnosis (which was 3 years ago) I was working full-time as a Payroll Officer and I was a sole parent with my 22 year old daughter living at home.

It was in my work place that I first noticed something was not right. I had been in Payroll for 18 years and couldn’t remember how to do back pay or remember the meetings that I had attended. So after becoming quite concerned about what was going on at work I went to my GP of several years. 

My mum’s story is a tragic one, although there was a silver lining in the end.

Since I was 9 (I am currently 45) my mum, Maurine, had battled with mental health issues. She had bipolar disorder, anxiety and depression and until her late forties was an alcoholic.

33 years ago my Mother was diagnosed with Dementia.

The Doctor told my Father and me that Dementia meant Mum's brain cells were dying, and nothing could be done.

She would soon be institutionalised in Kenmore Mental Asylum - a very old, lock-up facility. This left us feeling helpless, hopeless and broken-hearted over what was happening.

The illness progressed as expected, with Mum "living" her last 4 years in Kenmore, not recognising me, not talking, and cared for by people who were not able to help us connect in any way.

Where Or Who Do You Go To When You No Longer Have The Strength To Be A Carer - What Do You Do?

I have tried so very, very hard to keep my husband, with Alzheimer’s, at home for as long as possible, and not place him in a Nursing Home. 

My husband was diagnosed 4 years ago with Alzheimer’s as a result of my noticing speech repetition patterns developing over a period of a few months. There are some excellent services available to people suffering from this dreadful disease but I feel that there are some areas which need addressing urgently especially in the light of the burgeoning number of cases diagnosed each year.

Michael grew up in the South-West of England, living in the fishing villages of Cornwall and Devon. 

He enjoyed an active outdoor life.

A natural ability in art took him to art college, which was then interrupted by his conscription to the British Air-Force, where he was chosen to be a Fitness Instructor. From there he was recruited to be trained in the newly developed Diploma in Remedial Gymnastics, to help rehabilitate severely disabled ex-servicemen.

My nan suffered from dementia for almost ten years.

She passed away last week in a nursing home.

I was her carer for two years before this and although it was very hard at times, I wouldn't change it for a thing.

My nan was always looking out for everyone, always there to share a joke, or laugh with.

I will miss her more than anyone can imagine.

There is nothing worse than seeing the one you love lose her memory and fade away infront of your eyes.

Fay

Vascular dementia is a dementia that occurs because of mini and/or major strokes damaging the brain.  It is an insidious disease that steals capabilities, memory and personality. 

Over the last years, it crept up on my husband, Bill, like the proverbial thief in the night and I am writing his story, not only for the sake of our family history, or for the information of the wider community but because, when I researched the word dementia nobody told me exactly how it would be for Bill and me. 

I knew Izaac for 13 years. We met when I was 63 and he was 69. From that day there was a bond between us. In later years Zac said that it was providential that we met when we did, and that was when the seed of love was planted, which slowly grew, blossomed and continued to flourish.