Talking about your decisions

Many people will be happy and comfortable to talk with you about advance care planning and healthcare issues.

If this is not the case, there are a number of things you might do to help to get a conversation started. 

  • Find a time when you and the person you want to talk with are not distracted or thinking about other things that need to get done.
  • Choose a place that is quiet and relaxing.
  • Be clear in your own mind what you want to achieve out of the conversation.
  • Explain why you think it’s important to discuss this issue – for both you and them.
  • Acknowledge any difficulties they may have and allow them to express their concerns or uncertainties.
  • If the other person is not comfortable talking at the moment, don’t force the issue. Ask if they would like to talk about it later.
  • You might have a number of small conversations rather than having one big, dramatic conversation where everything is discussed.

If you are a bit unsure how the conversation will go, you could practise with a friend or health professional first to increase your confidence.

Worksheet 1.6: communicating my wishes to others

Complete the worksheet by downloading a blank copy and filling it in.

Step 6: Review your wishes and plans